Find common ground and pursue common interest

Always look for common ground and interest with other people. The differences are easier to spot and more likely to cause problems and to be a blocking factor. From fear for them, being ashamed or  given penalty, people's attention is taken away and stacked into the maze of the struggle over differences.

Common ground and/or interest are the key driver to find your alliance and sometimes finding them is the most critical and essential factor of success. The things you can achieve are very limited if you are alone.